Thursday, August 23, 2012

Recovery 365 – August 23 – Hand Reaching Out..

Recovery 365 – August 23 – Hand Reaching Out..

Hand Reaching Out.. (From a member)

“The hand is always reaching out. The newcomer is always arriving. I want to always be here. Nothing ensures my sobriety more than intense work with another alcoholic/addict. So my frequent contact continues to be the bright spot of my life. With 19 years and 8 months, I still feel like a newcomer. The promises say we will be amazed before we are half way through. What is half way through? Its daily F2F meetings for me. I’ve seen many who stayed away and then returned with a worse story. And many of them reported they were ok-sometimes for several years before they picked up and used. In fact they never thought they would drink or drug again. Their experience too, was and is there for me to take heed and learn from. I trust and pray that I have.”
For me, lately I haven’t been to many f2f meetings as life got very busy for me in the last few weeks. Things are settling down now and I will return to my meetings as I need to personal contact with others like me. It’s amazing how I feel after just an hour with others in recovery. I always hear what I need to hear whether I know it or not. I do my best to share ESH to others so that they might hear something that they need to hear also. Even with life getting “busy”, I’ve managed to stay tuned into my recovery online and having the responsibilities that I have taken, it helps keep me clean and sober for another 24.
Milkman

Monday, August 13, 2012

Recovery 365 - Love to Argue?

Love to Argue?

Do you ever find yourself enjoying a (good?) argument or debate with someone? Do you like matching "wits" with someone else?
I was involved in a couple of posts on other boards lately, in regards to a couple of posts that I posted. I got, what I thought were negative responses to them, and found myself, Justifying? or trying to "come back" at them, with what amounted to nothing more, than justifying and debating with the individuals involved.<--break->
I found some satisfaction in going back and forth with them, and tried my best not to post anything that would really offend anyone. I know in the past, I would have "laid into them" with "witty words" that would have been meant to demean or ridicule. I know that I still get sarcastic (read the discussion on sarcasm) but I really believe that I participated in these threads, just to have some fun. (At others expense?) I'm not sure.
When I was in my active addiction, there was nothing I enjoyed more, that to argue. I could argue about something, even if I knew I was wrong. I think that I did this, just to show the other person they were wrong (even if they weren't, lol), or to find ways to justify my own opinions.
I know that I've changed positively in these old behaviors, but I realize that their still inside me to some extent, with my argumentive nature. What about you all? Do you enjoy a good argument or debate? Can it be fun, or does it end up hurting someone else, in some manner or way?
Milkman